Thoughts and Jots--Blog Archives

Women talk about each other...a lot. What do people say when they hear your name? I'm referring to the positive side of "talking about each other." The ugly side is another article, for another time. Women don't always say negative things about each other, anyway. There are often times of genuine admiration, but I'm wondering out loud if we're admiring the right things. Consider this short list: FLEETING: She's so thin! If you want to get accolades at every turn, lose some weight. People who normally don't even speak to you will stop to compliment you on your scientific miracle! Of all the things that a woman could do to make her seem superhuman, shedding a part of her body is right up there next to walking on water! I've noticed this about weight loss: when one of us is on the way down, another is on the way back up. Strange game, isn't it? In fact, it's the only game that I know of where you're praised for being a "big loser...

If you consider yourself to be a "blunt" person who is "frank" and "honest" with people, don't be surprised if your candid opinion is poorly received. Blunt, Frank and Honest would make great gangster names, because more people have been hurt by this dynamic trio than we can count! Even if what you said was true, and even if you meant well, it is not your place to put people in their place! Our words have more value when they are prayerfully chosen and carefully spoken. "Pleasant words are as an honeycomb, sweet to the soul, and health to the bones." (Prov. 16:24) If you have a lot of problems with people and you are often in trouble for things that you've said, maybe it's you. You can say whatever you'd like, but don't expect everything you say to be well received. When it comes to words, more often than not, "less is more." I've heard a lot of excuses over the years from people who have a bad case of ...